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Handling Conflict
Posted by: | CommentsSometimes, misunderstanding arises when we do not understand other people’s map of the world, or in other words, when we cannot put ourselves in their shoes. Each person reacts to the other, the situation escalates, emotions intensify, and the chance of reaching a mutually beneficial agreement disappears in a puff of smoke.
One of the most effective ways to solve conflicts is to be able to see the other person’s perspective. Many times, this is all that is needed to defuse tension, initiate a different mind-frame, and open the path to a solution to the conflict or argument.
Whether you’re preparing for a meeting, dealing with family members, selling, negotiating, coaching, or giving a presentation, the ability to consciously choose the perspective you want to have on the situation massively increases the likelihood of success. This is what in NLP we call ‘Perceptual Positions’, i.e. different perspective from which you perceive a situation or problem which involves several people.
In this short audio, I’ll take you through the 3 Perceptual Positions. Leave comments at the bottom of this page if you have any. Click on the little arrow below to start the audio player.
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If I told you that…
Posted by: | Comments… the human unconscious mind has an irresistible need for closure, you’d understand why you have felt an involuntary, maybe overwhelming urge to keep going after you read the title of this post.
In 1927, Gestalt psychologist Kurt Lewin noticed that waiters has a much clearer recollection of still unpaid orders. His student at the time, Russian psychologist Blyuma Zeigarnik went on to study the phenomenon. What she found is: People remember incomplete tasks much more easily than completed ones. This is now called the “Zeigarnik effect”.
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If I Told You That…
The Scientific Nature of Consciousness
Posted by: | CommentsSusan Blackmore is dedicated to understanding the scientific nature of consciousness. Her latest work centers on the existence of memes — little bits of knowledge, lore, habit that seem to spread themselves using human brains as mere carriers. She’s exploring the existence of a new class of meme, spread by human technology. It’s temporarily named the “teme.”
New Goals for the New Year
Posted by: | CommentsThis is THE time of the year again! Looking back on what happened in 2009, good resolutions and new goals for 2010.
Here are a few things you’ll want to know to set goals THAT WORK for 2010. Remember, your Unconscious Mind is the goal getter and it needs precision, so read on.
When you set them, make sure your goals are SMART:
5 Things To Observe To Discover What People Think
Posted by: | CommentsYou may not know, but the 20th Century had its very own Merlin the Wizard.
His name was Milton Erickson, Dr. Milton Erickson. Dr. Erickson was a trained medical doctor and a hypnotherapist who had absolutely prodigious results with his patients.
The funny thing is: everyone thought that Erickson was a nice old man who said funny things. He would speak to his clients about tomatoes and their problems would disappear! But then videotapes were invented, and people started to realise what Dr. Erickson was doing. There are many things we learned about communication from Dr. Erickson (I will reveal what in subsequent articles), and what I want to focus on today is his most astonishing observation skill.