Some­times, mis­un­der­stand­ing arises when we do not under­stand other people’s map of the world, or in other words, when we can­not put our­selves in their shoes. Each per­son reacts to the other, the sit­u­a­tion esca­lates, emo­tions inten­sify, and the chance of reach­ing a mutu­ally ben­e­fi­cial agree­ment dis­ap­pears in a puff of smoke.

One of the most effec­tive ways to solve con­flicts is to be able to see the other person’s per­spec­tive. Many times, this is all that is needed to defuse ten­sion, ini­ti­ate a dif­fer­ent mind-frame, and open the path to a solu­tion to the con­flict or argument.

Whether you’re prepar­ing for a meet­ing, deal­ing with fam­ily mem­bers, sell­ing, nego­ti­at­ing, coach­ing, or giv­ing a pre­sen­ta­tion, the abil­ity to con­sciously choose the per­spec­tive you want to have on the sit­u­a­tion mas­sively increases the like­li­hood of suc­cess. This is what in NLP we call ‘Per­cep­tual Posi­tions’, i.e. dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive from which you per­ceive a sit­u­a­tion or prob­lem which involves sev­eral people.

In this short audio, I’ll take you through the 3 Per­cep­tual Posi­tions. Leave com­ments at the bot­tom of this page if you have any. Click on the lit­tle arrow below to start the audio player.

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