Archive for Reframe
A Perfect Example
Posted by: | CommentsHave you seen it?
THE video!
You mean, you did not see it? Or did you?
Switch-Position MP3
Posted by: | CommentsClick below to listen to the Switch-Position exercise.
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How NOT to go Bananas
Posted by: | CommentsSometimes, misunderstanding arises when we do not understand other people’s map of the world, or in other words, when we cannot put ourselves in their shoes.
Each person reacts to the other, the situation escalates, emotions intensify, and the chance of reaching a mutually beneficial agreement disappears in a puff of smoke.
What’s “Impossible”?
Posted by: | CommentsA few days ago, I had an interesting conversation with a friend who “refused to believe” (his words) that someone could walk over red hot fire coals unharmed. “Prove to me that it is possible!” he said. The fact that I have seen people firewalking unharmed thousands of time, was not a proof. “It is impossible”.
So what is “impossible” really?
Over 2000 years ago, the philosopher Zeno of Greece proved mathematically that it is impossible to cross a river. The argument was as follow: “the distance between one bank of the river and the other is made of an infinite amount of points. It takes an infinite amount of time to cross an infinite amount of points. Therefore it is impossible to cross a river” (I guess most of you didn’t know that it is impossible to cross a river, did you?)
We had to wait 2000 years and the advent of Calculus to show mathematically that an infinite amount of points can be crossed in a finite amount of time. Suddenly, in a split second, the impossible became possible (phew!)
Professor Stephen Hawking, the father of several key scientific discoveries in the field of cosmology and physics said: “It does not mean it is impossible. Only that our understanding is incomplete”.
Conclusion 1 is a question: How can I translate this in my life?
Conclusion 2: As Paul Watzlawick used to say, emotional health comes from growth, not healing.
Problem-Solving: An Example of Changing perspective.
Posted by: | CommentsA Rabbi teaches his disciple. “Two men go down a chimney at the same time. One comes out completely clean, the other one dirty. Which one goes to wash himself?” The disciple looks at the Rabbi, thinks for a minute, then says: “the dirty one.” “Not at all!” says the Rabbi. “The dirty one, looking at his clean friend, thinks he is clean as well. The clean one, seeing that his friend is so dirty, concludes that he must be dirty as well and goes to wash.”
“Let me ask you another question” says the Rabbi. “Two men go down a chimney at the same time. One gets to the bottom completely clean, the other one dirty. Which one goes to wash himself?” The disciple looks at the Rabbi, totally puzzled: “You just told me! The clean one!” “Not at all!” replies the Rabbi. “The two men look t themselves, and the dirty one goes to wash.”
“Now one more question” says the Rabbi. “Two men go down a chimney at the same time. One gets to the bottom completely clean, the other one dirty. Which one goes to wash himself?” The disciple is lost: “I do not know, depending on your point of view, either or?” “Of course not!” says the Rabbi, “how can two men go down a chimney at the same time and only one of them remain clean? They are both dirty and go to wash themselves.”
Often, the solution to problems depends on the point of view we adopt. A problem-solving coaching style will promote the client’s ability to get out of his/her usual model of the world.
